Do I See What I Saw?

When I was little, I wanted to be a supermodel. I also wanted to be a librarian so I could scan books. Um, let's see, also someone who made icees for people at the gas station and an actress. Nothing was impossible. It's still not.

During college, my goal was to not only earn my major, but a minor also. In addition, I wanted to make the honor role. Check.

But on a more personal note, growing up you think about what age you are going to do what - like when you want to be engaged, married, have kids, etc. It's amazing what us girls plan out.

Now I'm older. Things have changed. Sure, have goals, they are necessary! But at the same time, don't have goals because you lose sight of what you REALLY want.


"Sometimes we fight for something only to discover by the time we get it, our goals have changed." - Gossip Girl


Now that I'm out of college and in the "real world," my goals are WAY off of what they used to be. Maybe it's maturity, but happiness is really all that I want. When you are younger, you have a routine. You have the same people around you all the time and you know what is happening in your life. You have the same friends for your whole entire life.

Blink your eyes once, and friends are going every which way in the world for college and jobs and it's inevitable - you lose touch. But that's okay. Sometimes people are only meant to be in your life for a certain amount of time to help you figure out what you want and don't. It's not something to be sad over, but instead to smile about because really, you owe them a thank you. Then comes along new people to help shape the new you. It's a process. And as you grow, people grow with you.

So, don't get too caught up in what your goals are. Know that it's okay to change your goals. Because we change. I know I do. And what I've wanted my whole entire life, what I'm so attached to, I don't necessarily think twice about now.

Take a time out. Figure out where you are, what you wanted and what you want. There's no rule saying that you have to make a plan and stick to it. There's no limit. Look out as far as you possibly can and then further. Admire the view...of life.

Easy's Never Been Good Anyway

Remember the white rabbit? Remember when Alice saw the white rabbit with a clock and no one believed her? It was completely possible in her mind.

Close your eyes and think about something that's made you very happy. Is it perhaps something you have worked really hard for? Is it something that was simply given to you?

When I think about things that I am proud of and something that brings me true happiness, I think about things that I have earned. So whether that's a friend's trust or a good grade on a test, it's something that took practice. Not everybody can just get that.

This past week, I watched a movie that a friend of mine has been raving on and on about. The movie is called "Soul Surfer" which features the real life of Bethany Hamilton, who's arm was bitten off by a shark. The movie tells an absolutely amazing story based on the idea of never giving up. And if there's one thing in life I love, it's people who keep striving!

"I don't need easy. I just need possible." - Soul Surfer

When people make goals for themselves, it's always important to keep in mind that it can be accomplished as long as it's possible. Of course, I am one of the few in life who think ANYTHING is possible. Want to learn to fly - then drive a plane. Want to learn to disappear - then wear Harry Potter's invisibility cloak... or hide behind something.

Just like no questions are silly, no goals are silly either. So as I'm planning my future, I am making goals for myself. Where I want to live and what I want to do with my life. Sure, there are those around me who nod their head but highly disagree, but that doesn't matter. It may make things more difficult for me, but I have enough will and want to turn those goals and dreams into real possibilities. Or at least try.

If your goal is something that has obstacles in the way of it, that just means that it's the right choice. Nothing worth anything is too easy to get to. The smile comes from going after it!

Worries Turned into Laughter

We are gamblers. Whether we are in Vegas losing money faster than we can say hello or not. We gamble with our lives, futures, friends, family, etc.

But with gambling comes worrying. Ever hear of the term "worry-wart?" I'm one of those. I worry all of the time. But when I say what I'm worrying over out loud, it suddenly sounds so silly and I can't help but to laugh at myself for being caught up over something so ridiculous.

Lately, I've been seeing movie previews for the new Nicholas Sparks' book-turned-movie "The Lucky One." I think what really caught my attention was Zac Efron. He's all grown up :) Moving on, Nicholas Sparks always has romantic books/movies and it's basically in the girl handbook that we have to see it/love it. So as the movie looks so alluring, I wanted to read the book first to get a sense of it before it hit theaters (because obviously I'll be there on opening day). While reading the book, the quote that stuck out to me more than any other strings of words was:

"I think you're worrying about the wrong things here." - The Lucky One

So even if you are not a worry-wart, you are still a worrier and you need to stop trying to handle what can't be handled. So to break the stress and turn that frown upside down, do what I do: Say it out loud. You don't have to say it to anyone... maybe just a mirror so you can see and hear how ridiculous your worries actually are.

I realize that some worries are so legitimate that they shouldn't be laughed at, but we stress ourselves out over all the small ones when they are added up. So, STOP IT!

Let me give you one of my silly examples. While I was working at Disney, I found out that Joe Jonas was going to be performing nearby. I was such a Jonas crazy girl that I had to go, however, no one else wanted to. Then I met a new friend at work and she was just as excited. So not knowing each other, we decided to go see Joe! I looked up the ticket prices online (even though it was too late to buy online) and it was a little steep but I was willing to splurge because of how hard I had been working. However, when we arrived at the concert line, we looked at the ticket price and it had gone up substancially! We both stayed in line but in my head, I was freaking out a LOT! I was going to splurge on the tickets when I saw the first price - I talked myself into justifying it. But then suddenly it went up a ton? I really didn't want to spend that much, but I didn't want to disappoint my new friend and ditch her. I made her a promise.

So the funny part, I finally told what I was feeling and she was SO relieved! She had been thinking the same exact thing! We stepped out of line and went to see the movie "Abduction" with Taylor Lautner in it instead.

It's so ridiculous how we torture ourselves over things that don't even matter. So stop gambling with situations, and just say what you feel or get things over with so you can relax!

Talk to the mirror!